Over the holidays I visited a friend who really doesn't have a lot going for her. But she could. The problem is that she is so focused on her own failings. Her own inadequacies. So much so that those around her simply can't see how beautiful she is inside. Because of her own insecurities she draws attention to herself in subtle ways. Things like commenting on how her voice is cracking today, how bad her hair looks, how much weight she has lost (or gained), or what the doctor said about her blood pressure. Me, me, me.
How much better we all are if we can learn to be honest with ourselves and stop talking about ourselves and admit that we are creating circumstances so that we will get attention and simply stop doing that. (I remember once having a broken wrist and loving the attention I got with my cast.) Others know it and it turns them away.
Important thing to learn: The very thing we do to get others to like us will, in fact, turn them away. Others are not interested in us; they are interested in themselves and the sooner we learn that, the sooner we will discover that we are accepted.
My heart aches for her. I don't think she will give her Self up.
About Me
- Hattie
- South Carolina, United States
- I am an older woman who never thought she would marry when she was young. However, after letting go of my mission to catch a man, I did marry and, 30 years later, am still in love. I hurt when I see so many single men and women around me who long to have a mate but don’t. It is my heart’s desire to share things that hopefully will help them learn how to be honest with themselves about things that need to change in their lives, with the goal that they will find someone to love and to be loved by.
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